cutting of the cake debate
We’ve all seen it. Brides and grooms, thinking it would be funny to stuff cake into their spouse’s mouths, like they’re at a children’s party. I was reading TMZ earlier and saw this article about a groom accidentally knocking out the bride due a cutting of the cake brouhaha. Why do people do that?? I don’t get it.
I see a lot of those videos on Tiktok too. And it’s not just on weddings, it’s every time there’s a cake: birthdays, anniversaries, etc. What is it with cake that people tend to want to smash someone’s face or mouth into it?
And at weddings? If my husband did something like that on our wedding day, we’re done, like I’m not even kidding. I’m not just talking about smashing my face into a cake. I don’t care whether he wants to put a little bit of icing on the my face, or maybe push a big slice into my mouth, it is not acceptable to me. Every time I see couples do that at their cake cutting ceremony, it makes me cringe so hard. It’s not funny. It’s awkward for everyone, most especially if the other person didn’t like it, and it showed.
What is the meaning of the cutting of the cake part of the reception?
Originally, as I read online, it dates back to a Victorian tradition, and during that time, it was only the bride who cuts the cake and distributes a slice to everyone. Overtime, it became a shared task of the bride and groom, and I think that’s also to symblozie that it like their first task to gether as a man and wife.
Why do some couples play with the cake?
I think the simple answer to this is because they think it’s fun. And it maybe for some, but not me, unfortunately. If you really want to do something like, it is best to let your husband or wife know first, because there is nothing more visually uncomfortable look at at a wedding reception, than the vision of an angry husband or wife. Even just the look of disappointment on either one, makes for a very awkward photo.
Again, like I said a thousand times already on this blog, it is your wedding, so it is your choice, but if you’re going to choose to do something as childish as that ,then at least let the other person know beforehand. Don’t pull a prank or a messy surprise like that. Not on your wedding day.
Another thing to think about when you’re planning on doing something silly, (see how I keep pointing that out?) is to make sure that nothing gets on your bride or groom’s hair and attire. The bride probably spent so much money for the hair and makeup, so you really don’t want to ruin that, and same with the groom. Don’t even get me started on ruining the dress or suit.
What can you do to avoid cutting the cake but still have same effect?
Ask somebody to precut the cake, so you won’t have a hard time, or make any mess in trying to get a perfect slice.
Opt for cupcakes instead. Although, cupcakes can also be messy when you bite into it, due to the amount of icing on top of it. You can also try Macarons. They’re not messy and easy to eat.
Feed yourself your own slice, but do it in a crisscross way, kinda like when you’re drinking the wine. Your hands are crossing each other’s arms, but you’re still feeding your own mouth. That way, you can control what is going inside your mouth.
Avoid the whole thing altogether and do something else. Other weddings I attended, they didn’t cut a cake, but instead both couple blew one candle on top of the cake, to symbolize their day together as a married couple.
Those are just some ideas you can try. Ultimately, it;s up to you, but to avoid adding tension to an already emotion filled day, don’t do things that might cause drama. I think it’salso about respect. Doing the feeding of the cake in a nice and sweet way, instrad of making it funny and gross, shows that you respect your husband or wife. That’s just me though. If you’re the type of couple who likes doing pranks or anything similar to that, then go for it. As long as the the person is ok with it, then it’s ok.
