WEDDING DREAMS RUINED
I was browsing through Facebook and came across this article about a couple’s dream destination wedding being ruined by a ravers party right next to their ceremony location. I guess what happened was a double booking by the hotel, and so instead of having a solemn, intimate wedding, they had to share the moment with half-naked party goers, with blaring loud music. That’s just a bride’s nightmare isn’t it?? I mean, being so excited about your special day and having something like that happened.
If that thing happens to you, you can definitely can get a discount from the total amount you have to pay. It’s the hotel’s responsibility to deliver what they promised and they’re mostly very accommodating about that, based on my experience. I’m just not sure about destination weddings and how those out of country hotels deal with things like this. Anyway, if you are scared of something like happening to your wedding, here are some tips on how to feel more secured:
If you have a wedding planner, of course, it’s the wedding planner’s problem, they should be the one taking care of all the issues up to the day of the wedding. Talk to your wedding planner about your concerns, and possible issues that you are thinking of. The wedding planner should be able to address those. It’s their job to make you the bride and groom feel secured that everything’s handled accordingly. Tell them about possible scary scenarios in your head. I’m pretty sure if you hired an experienced wedding planner, that they’ve come accross and dealt with those same situations before.
If you have no wedding planner, and you are doing yourself, make sure to look for a location that is exclusive. By exclusive, I don’t mean having the whole place by yourself, because we’re not really millionaires, are we? What I mean is that, the safest bet would be like a separated, designated space for you event. This is really not issue especially if you’re booking a hotel banquet room, or hall, or any wedding venues for reception. This issue may arise if you’re doing your ceremony outdoors, like with destination weddings, or at a beach or in a park somewhere. A public place is a public space, so sometimes it’s really hard to stop people from passing by or worse, crashing your event. Make sure that if you are booking a public place, like a place somewhere in a park or beach, that you choose a location away from the crowd. Find a secluded area, covered by trees or something else. That way, the people won’t see what’s going on. People are usually respectful when they see a wedding happening, but if it’s at a beach or outside a hotel where guests paid money to be there, it’s hard to ask them to be quiet or not be there. If it’s at a destination wedding, make sure to talk to the wedding planner there, and tell them your concerns. Tell them about that article I talked about above, request for a secluded area. IF the wedding reception is outside the hotel near the beach, ASK and really confirm that there is no other event nearby.
Designate one person, maybe an usher, to make sure that there will be no trespassers, or if there are people walking along the way, to direct them the other way. This is if you don’t have a wedding planner, because usually, the wedding planner takes care of these instances, or better yet, the planner designates one person to look after this. Anyway, you can ask a member of family or any of your friends who are not in the wedding party to do this.
If you are in an open space and you’d like to have some sort of privacy, you can definitely rent out some privacy screens at party rental places. Maybe just enough to close off a little portion or one side, where the other event is happening.
If you found out on the day of the wedding that there is another event that might distract from the intimacy of your wedding, kinda like what happened to this couple on their destination wedding, and there is absolutely nothing you can do to change it, I guess the only advice I can give is go with the flow. I know it’s such a hard thing to do especially if you’ve dreamed about having this perfect day, and then having it ruined. The reason I’m saying this is, there is no point in getting at the time of, you can get angry after. I know it’s hard, but that is the only way you’ll get to live in the moment of you wedding. If you let that thing eat you up thew whole day, you’ll miss your own wedding.
Most brides have dreamt about their weddings since they became adults, some as early as when they first fell in love. Wedding planning takes years sometime, make sure that when you start talking about locations with your partner, that you really take into consideration other events that might occur in the future at that location. Especially if it’s a public space. That way, you won’t have to worry about it close to the wedding day itself. I am sure that there are so many beautiful locations around where you live, that you’ll be able to find some secluded place, even if it’s outside a public park.
