things you can do differently for your wedding

Ever since Tiktok became the “Go to” source for wedding inspirations, second to Pinterest of course, it became so hard to think of new things to do for your own wedding. Hard in the sense that when you first see it on Tiktok, you’ll say “Wow that’s so unique, I’ll try that for my wedding!” But by the time you do it, it had already become a viral thing that every other wedding is doing or have done already. The best example for me personally, is the Flower man. You know what it is, don’t tell me you haven’t seen it, it’s all over Tiktok and social media. An adult man, one of the groomsmen I guess, is the one spreading the flowers, instead of the flower girl. The guy makes funny gestures, everyone laughs, life is good! When I first saw it, I laughed so hard and said to myself “This is so funny!’ But then every other wedding started doing it, and so I quickly grew tired it.

Here are some things you can do differently for your own wedding. These are my suggestions. They’ve probably been done before somewhere, so I’m not going to say that these are unique and original, but they’re not as overused as some you’ve seen on Tiktok or on some other social media flatforms.

Hire a ballerina or a contemporary dancer to spread the flowers for you. It’ll be a nice break from all the viral wedding entrance dances that you see everywhere, you know the ones where the bridal party make some crazy individual dances as they walk through the aisle.

Or if you don’t have an extra money to spend, you can ask your dad or your mom to spread the flowers. It’s always been the parents paving the way for their child ever since they are born, so by them spreading the flowers, it’s like a symbol of what they’re already done throughout the years: to lead the way to their child’s future. Another thing you can do is, have your mom or dad spread the flowers halfway for you, and then he/she can come back and pick you up, and you can walk together. It’s such a sweet gesture, showing everyone that your parent is making sure that the way to your future is lined with flowers.

Make the bridesmaids wear beautiful big flower corsages, instead of having them carry individual bouquets. It’s way cheaper because you don’t have to pay for so much flowers, and you can do either buy them or do them yourselves. I think it’s nice because the bridesmaids won’t have to worry too much about what they’re holding, so they can relax their arms. It’s also a good way of really emphasizing the bouquet of the bride in the pictures.

Do a bride family reveal before the wedding. Not the whole family, but just the parents and brothers or sisters. I’ve seen a lot of these bride reveal videos on Tiktok but it’s mostly just the Groom’s first look of the bride or the dad’s. This time, for your wedding, you can include your whole family, your mom, dad, and siblings. Then to make it even more sweeter, prepare a thank you speech for them. You can read it to them, just thank each one, especially your parents, for all the things they’ve done for you throughout the years leading to the day of the wedding. It might be a tear-jerking event, but at least you can get all the cry out of yourself and your parents, and the make up artists can do a makeup retouch, before the wedding march starts. It’s a cute little private moment between yourself and your family's.

If you can find pictures of yourself and your bride/groom with each guest, put them on the table they are seating on. Just buy small frames and incorporate it with the centerpiece. It’s a good icebreaker for the people in each table. They can look at the pictures and talk about when it was taken, and how they know you guys. It’s definitely a good conversation starter.

If you are having a buffet dinner, one of the games you can do to decide which table eats first, is “Know your seatmates”. The first person, who can identify the full names of everyone on their table can go first, and so on, so forth. It’s a good way for the people to know each other on their individual tables. It’s faster than doing those “How well do you know the bride and groom” games.

Scatter all the speeches or toasts throughout the night. Don’t do it all at once, because it’s going to be so long. Maybe do your parents’ speeches right before dinner, immediately after everyone is seated. Then do some more during dinner, and then do another in-between your first dances, and before or after the bouquet/garter toss. Leave the last spot for your speech. This is one way of calming the nerves of whoever is going to speak, because they don’t have to worry about how good their speech or toast is. especially if they’re going right after someone who really made everyone cry or laugh.

Prepare a thank you video with your husband to thank all the guests for coming, and sharing this special day with you. It’s another way instead of doing speeches. DO it in your home on the couch so that it looks casual and comfy and you’ll really be able to talk freely

Do your bride and groom’s first dance right before the DJ starts blasting party music. What I usually see couples do, is they do their bride and groom’s first dance, and then they do the bouquet and garter toss ceremony, and whole lot of other stuff that’s part of the program. There’s nothing wrong with that, but for me, it just takes away from the impact of the first dance. I’d like to see the first dance as the last part of the program, so that it’s kinda like THE DANCE that started all the other dances of the night. You get what I mean, right?

Or if you insist on having a flash mob dance with the wedding party, this is the best way to incorporate that. DO it immediately after the first dance, so that it gets the party started, because almost everyone is in the dance floor already. The DJ just has to to worry about keeping them all there. LOL.

Distribute a disposable camera on the dance floor once the party starts. It’s good way for people to capture each other’s emotions while having fun on the dance floor, without them worrying about what they look like, because they won’t really see it until you guys develop the pictures. Just make sure somebody collects all the cameras when it’s done.

Those are just a few things you can do differently for you own wedding. If you want to do the ones you see on Tiktok or social media, feel free to do it, if you really like it. It’s your wedding, so it’s a your choice. These are just a few suggestions from me.

If you have new ideas, shoot me an email and we’ll do another one of this.