low key wedding a la bennifer?
I think they’re the wrong example because when did Bennifer ever become low key? Even if they try to, they can’t. Since they’re high profile celebrities, everyone excepts something big from them, especially their wedding, so for me, the wedding they had recently, well, it’s kinda low key. I digress.
I read somewhere that during the pandemic, when there were lockdowns, limits, and restrictions to events, people realized how fun it was to just have a few people around, and not be in a crowded space. I don’t like going out. I used to when I was younger, but after I had my kids, I think it was around my mid 30’s, when I changed to this lazy 60 yr old version of myself (no offense to women of 60s who are active). I just wanted to stay at home and watch TV. I’m in my early 40’s by the way. LOL. The lockdown was welcomed with open arms by me because I really enjoyed not seeing anyone, other than my kids and husband. I got to experience working from home also. I still do.
When events like weddings, were limited to say, 30 - 50 guests, couples realize that it can be done, and done tastefully still. People who attended those events, myself included, saw that it’s nice to have a low key, intimate wedding and reception, instead of a big party. SO NOW, EVEN AFTER THE PANDEMIC, AND AFTER ALL THE RESTRICTIONS WERE LIFTED, some couples are still choosing to have an intimate wedding with a few guests. Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck recently got married (duh we all know that, unless you live under a rock). I’d say it was low key, especially for big celebrities such as those two. I mean, even with a pandemic, I bet they could still have a big wedding if they wanted to. But they chose to do it with just a few people. By few, I think it still meant lots for regular people like us, but then again, they’re celebrities. I think it has to do with privacy on their part.
Do you want to have an intimate wedding as well? Low key a la JLo and Ben Affleck? Well, first things first, find yourself a Ben Affleck. If you already have one, lucky you!! What I am saying is, if you are engaged, and already talking about setting the big day, discuss with your fiancé your ideal wedding.
If you want something intimate, the first thing you should talk about is the guest list. Having a few people for your wedding is hard to do, in the sense that, you have the responsibility of choosing who, among all your friends, relatives and loved ones, you are inviting. It’s the biggest hurdle because there will be feelings involved. People will get hurt whether you like it or not.
We got married in a small wedding venue, and the maximum number of guests allowed was just 30. It wasn’t difficult for us because my husband’s family were in the Philippines at that time and I didn’t have a big family here. So the guest list was actually what we intended: a few family members and friends. I think having an intimate wedding is a different experience for you as a couple because you get to really enjoy what is going on, instead of worrying so much about all the things that could go wrong in a big event. Plus, you get to talk to each guests, and vice versa.
A few ideas:
You could elope somewhere. Las Vegas is the most popular eloping destination. Simply because it’s cheaper to fly or drive there, and there are so many things you can do before and after you get married. It’s a one stop wedding and honeymoon destination. You could also go to Mexico or any tropical places such as Costa Rica. Maldives is very beautiful no matter what season you go to. With the 2 year pandemic that halted tropical destination tourism, they are now offering so many new packages and discounts, just so they can catch up from the 2 year lull. But be wary because airlines are also bombarded with travelers at the moment, with so many horror stories about cancellations and delays. Maybe wait till next year?
You could also just have a backyard wedding. I love backyard weddings because you can do so much with backyards. You just need a few décor, good food and wine, and viola, you have an intimate event. I have another blog talking about backyard weddings and set up. You can read it HERE.
If I have another chance to have a wedding (on our silver anniversary perhaps? Hint hint. LOL) I would still do a small wedding. I am so proud of what we’ve accomplished for my wedding, given our budget, and I am pretty sure we can achieve that again.
It is up to you to decide what type of wedding you will have. Whether it be low key and intimate, or a big fancy one, the most important thing is that you and your husband -to-be are both happy with what you're doing.
Remember, celebrity weddings will always be extravagant, whether it’s a small, low key event like Bennifer’s, or a big party like Britney Spears’ s wedding. They have money to spend, that’s why. But it doesn’t mean to you can’t have that. With a little help of YouTube, Google, and the ever so handy, Pinterest, you can achieve what they did for their wedding, at a small price.
