all about bridesmaids
How many bridesmaids is enough?
When I got married, I didn’t have any bridesmaids because it was a small venue, and I wanted a simple wedding ceremony. I did have flower girls, because I have so many cute nieces that I couldn’t pass on the opportunity to see them in cute little dresses.
I have been to weddings where there were 5 of us bridesmaids or less, and I’ve attended one with over 15 bridesmaids. Yes 15! There were so many of them that I felt bad for the photographer because fitting all of the wedding party in one shot was a pain. It was like a class picture.
BUT to answer that question, I am going to point you to the name of my website: choicewedding, meaning it is your wedding, so it is your choice. If you want to include just close friends, and some relatives, then do it. Whatever you’re comfortable with, is what you go for.
Here are some important points to consider:
Bridesmaids play a very important role in your wedding, they assist you with anything you need leading up to the wedding day. I think it will be easier to assign tasks or talk about them about it, if you are really close with them. Don’t just get a person because you feel bad that they’re not going to be included, even if you barely know them, like a cousin that your aunt or your mother forced you to include. Chances are, that person is also being forced. Bridesmaids also take care of your bachelorette, so if you keep within your close circle, then it will be a fun girl’s night. At the end of the day, it is your special day. It is your choice.
Make sure that the bridesmaids get along well with each other. You don't want any hostility or awkward silences whenever you guys get together, and you will get together many, many times. If there are any issues with some of them, talk it over and ask them if they are comfortable.
Ask your friend first if they want to be a bridesmaid, instead of just telling them pointblank.
When my friend was getting married, she didn’t really have to ask me, because the day she got engaged, I told her I have to be a bridesmaid hahah. The reason I suggest that you ask first, if they haven’t already volunteered, is because being a bridesmaid can be a bit costly. They pay for their dress, sometimes a new shoe, and also their hair and make up. Unless you are paying for some of it. But if not, then I think it's only fair to ask them. If they say no because of any reason, don't get mad or upset, but instead, try to come up with a solution if you can, or just understand them.
Don’t make up titles just so you can fit everybody in. You have bridesmaids. You don’t need bride’s ushers, (different from regular ushers that assist in the seating), ambassadors of the bride, etc. You only need bridesmaids, and of course, your maid or matron of honor. That’s it. If your ceremony includes rituals and other stuff like putting of the veil, bible reading, candle lighting, sand pouring, Any one of the bridesmaids can do that. You don’t need separate girls for that.
Here’s a simple list of the wedding party: Parents of the bride and groom, Maid/ Matron of Honor, Best Man, Groomsmen, Bridesmaids, flower girls, ring bearers. Of course, there’s the Ushers, Guest book attendants, etc. But they’re not included in the procession.
